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Disjointed thoughts
2019 was a year of gains - unit (and associated debt/financial stress) and loss - my father, the Hall and more broadly the Christchurch mosque massacre.
Juxtaposed against Dad's death my own movement into the role of part-time father to D's 3 kids, particularly poignant as we had them for Xmas.
It's been a bit hard going this holidays as D has been unwell so I've been taking more of the load than anticipated...
"Wedding" planning and expenses have been a constant throughout the year (our commitment ceremony is mid-January) peaked by venue issues shortly before Xmas / the kids arriving.
Work has been constant to intense. I need to be better at work next year, I've asked for a pay increase and I need to be worth it; even if I don't get it I will need to manage more hours to make ends meet. Fortunately I have come out of the winter slump this year (which I did not last year).
The house cleanout and yard cleanup have both been stalled; I had hoped to have time most days during the holidays to tackle these tasks piecewise, but only on a couple of days has this actually proven possible. I get sucked back into playing Path of Exile a lot of the time; that's my current downtime activity and often when I find a gap downtime is the only thing I have energy for, but once started it's also hard to put aside in my current state of mind/emotion :(
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I can't remember a lot of specifics from the past decade; much of it I was depressed and unhappy, we lost and gained members of family, there were the earthquakes, I was involved with the Hall for most of it. Of course I met and started loving D. :)
My journal and photo galleries record details of certain aspects of my life, but I do not have the energy right now to delve back through them for reminders. Facebook also technically records many details, but they are not functionally accessible.
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Looking forward: the next decade starts with a completely new arc in the story of my life, against which the past couple of years with D have only been the foreword.
Some things are going to be harder, many things better. I don't know if I will still be living in this house, which has been my home for 20-something years, in another 10. In several ways it is less than ideal for our current needs. We will be looking at our options.
It's unlikely the Hall is going to be reopened, but if it is I intend to be there, or be it in a reduced capacity. Regardless there are still loose ends it will be my responsibility to be tie up when a decision about it's future is made.
I do not foresee my place of work changing significantly.
Happy New Year, may it bring good things to all.
2019 was a year of gains - unit (and associated debt/financial stress) and loss - my father, the Hall and more broadly the Christchurch mosque massacre.
Juxtaposed against Dad's death my own movement into the role of part-time father to D's 3 kids, particularly poignant as we had them for Xmas.
It's been a bit hard going this holidays as D has been unwell so I've been taking more of the load than anticipated...
"Wedding" planning and expenses have been a constant throughout the year (our commitment ceremony is mid-January) peaked by venue issues shortly before Xmas / the kids arriving.
Work has been constant to intense. I need to be better at work next year, I've asked for a pay increase and I need to be worth it; even if I don't get it I will need to manage more hours to make ends meet. Fortunately I have come out of the winter slump this year (which I did not last year).
The house cleanout and yard cleanup have both been stalled; I had hoped to have time most days during the holidays to tackle these tasks piecewise, but only on a couple of days has this actually proven possible. I get sucked back into playing Path of Exile a lot of the time; that's my current downtime activity and often when I find a gap downtime is the only thing I have energy for, but once started it's also hard to put aside in my current state of mind/emotion :(
~~~
I can't remember a lot of specifics from the past decade; much of it I was depressed and unhappy, we lost and gained members of family, there were the earthquakes, I was involved with the Hall for most of it. Of course I met and started loving D. :)
My journal and photo galleries record details of certain aspects of my life, but I do not have the energy right now to delve back through them for reminders. Facebook also technically records many details, but they are not functionally accessible.
~~~
Looking forward: the next decade starts with a completely new arc in the story of my life, against which the past couple of years with D have only been the foreword.
Some things are going to be harder, many things better. I don't know if I will still be living in this house, which has been my home for 20-something years, in another 10. In several ways it is less than ideal for our current needs. We will be looking at our options.
It's unlikely the Hall is going to be reopened, but if it is I intend to be there, or be it in a reduced capacity. Regardless there are still loose ends it will be my responsibility to be tie up when a decision about it's future is made.
I do not foresee my place of work changing significantly.
Happy New Year, may it bring good things to all.
